I’m the kind of person that likes my space.
Empty house? VACATION! No mess, no noise, no obligation to anyone but myself. So I figure, when I travel, my man would feel the same. He can be as messy as he wants, eat whatever he wants without my evil eye, go to bed as late as he wants. No nagging wife. Nope. Not the case. My man wants me around. He wants to feel needed.
Is it true that men need to feel needed in order to feel important? In the olden days, women were the needy ones. They were often homemakers, meaning they were not bringing in the money. So they relied on their husbands for cash to buy groceries, household supplies, clothing and adult conversation. But over the last few decades, that model has shifted. We’re out there doing our thing. We’re strong. We’re independent. We’re movin’ and groovin’ in our own way. And often times, that takes us away from our man. I admit it. I can be chilly in my lack of need for my man. Distant when I don’t mean to be. I’m a powerhouse. I’m not afraid to say it. And that makes me less reliant on my man for emotional needs. And bummer for him – it’s making him feel less and less significant. It's a strange twist of events. There are more women are out there, claiming the life they want and not realizing how their new found independence is affecting their men. And if your guy is like mine, he doesn’t want to look needy or “girly” so he’ll stay quiet, slowly growing more and more resentful. So there I am. Oblivious. Honestly believing he wanted me to be more self-reliant. Thought he’d be psyched to be doing my own thing and needing him less. OH NO!
Men need to feel needed. And to them, a woman who doesn’t need them is as bad as a woman who is
too needy. Men need to be needed. And while the needs of these powerhouse women have become smaller and smaller, the needs of their men ain’t really changing. Our men need us to need them in order to feel like their job as a partner is being done. And, so the saga continues. So what should you do? Especially if you are one of these bad-ass women like me, craving independence and freedom? Love on your man. Let him know you need him. It’s that simple. Cause what good is any relationship if you’re in it alone? Give him a call while you’re away. Tell him your stories. Ask him for advice.
Let your man know they ways in which you need him and let him be the man. I have given you some great advice on how to let your man know you need him. What do you do to let your man know? I would love to hear from you. Please leave your comments in the box below. If you found this inspiring, please share it with your friends. Post in on their walls via FB, or pin it to Pinterest or Tweet it. XO, Hayley This article was originally featured on
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