Did you know that having healthy habits may be the key to achieving your dream life?
Here’s a quote I love:
And while most of the time I like to focus on practical, prescriptive types of habits to cultivate (habit stacking, the 1-hour rule, yadda yadda)...
Today I’m gonna give you 3 mindset habits you absolutely must master if you want to live your dream life.
Cultivate These 3 Habits to Achieve Your Dream Life
Habit #1: Daily optimism.
If you don’t believe your dreams will happen, they won’t happen. #endofstory
We all have moments of doubt, but people who believe in themselves—and cultivate a daily habit of optimism—are the ones who make shiz happen.
You’ve heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy, right?
It’s that concept that if you think something’s going to happen… it will. Most of the time, we use this phrase as a negative.
“See? I knew I wouldn’t get that job!”
“I knew he was going to break up with me!”
“I knew that was going to happen!”
This sort of mentality actually leads to the undesirable result… because you make it so. You unconsciously contribute to this outcome with behaviors that make it come true.
You didn’t get that job because you didn’t believe you could. So you likely showed up giving off that energy.
He likely broke up with you because you were sending out vibes that it was a foregone conclusion. And probably your behavior started shifting to the negative so yeah, he wanted out faster.
That horrible thing happened because you put out that energy and the universe gave you what you friggin’ wanted.
But we don’t think about these things. We don't WANT to think about these things.
And there’s this sick part of us that actually feels a little satisfied when that self-fulfilling prophecy comes true. #ownit
So let me ask you this.
What if you did the opposite?
What if the energy you put out was eternal optimism? What if you channeled your inner Ted Lasso? #WWTLD
What if you believed?
What you believe you can achieve.
Not only does optimism help you reach your dream life, you get less wrinkles. Pretty sure that’s a fact. #becausescience
Habit #2: Show the eff up – every day.
There’s dreaming… and there’s daydreaming.
You daydream when you think about something you truly want… and don’t do a dang thing about it.
You’ll actually have a better shot of achieving your dream if you put action behind it.
So you gotta show up.
You gotta show up when it’s hard.
When you’re tired and don’t wanna do it.
When the naysayers are telling you to take the easier path.
When the easier path (the one that leads away from your dream) tempts you.
No one’s gonna do the work for you. That’s all on you, boo.
What does “showing up” look like?
It means:
- Having a clear vision.
- Running your decisions and actions through the lens of “will this get me closer to my dream?”
- Giving up shiz that no longer serves you – or distracts you from your goal.
- Doing the work.
- Having “stick-with-it-ness” even when things seem to fall apart.
It also means not doing one little thing and being like, “Ok I did it, where’s my prize?”
There’s no such thing as an overnight success.
I mean, it took decades for Paul Rudd to become People Magazine’s Sexiest Man Alive. And he hasn’t aged a day since Clueless came out. #literalvampire
You want the rewards? You gotta show up and do the work.
Habit #3: Stop having to be right.
What do you want?
Why is it important to you?
What are you willing to give up to achieve your dreams?
These are questions I’ve been thinking a lot about lately.
One of the things I’m willing to give up is being right. (Man, this one is harrrrddddd LOL).
I’ve realized that when I hold on tightly to being right… it’s constricting. I mean, nothing ever flourishes when it’s being throttled.
And the ego lovvveeessss being right.
But I’m willing to give that up.
Are you?
The fact is, if you’re the smartest (or most rightest) person in the room… you’re in the wrong room.
If you were right all the time, you’d be on that mega yacht right now with Oprah, giving Warren Buffet business advice, and winning a deadlift competition with The Rock.
Your husband Ryan Reynolds (sorry Blake) would be feeding you grapes while Adele ran her newest set list by you.
(OK I don’t know where this is going but I’m super into this fantasy right now… LOL)
What was I talking about?
Oh yeah, being right.
When you focus on being right, you narrow your vision to a pinprick. You can’t see the opportunities around you.
What if you gave up being right… and started being intentional instead?
When you “intend” something, you allow for flexibility. You still stay focused on a big picture dream… but you aren’t committed to your way or the highway.
Intention allows for flow. For the infinite possibilities the universe has in store for you.
There’s literally no linear path to your dream.
So give up the myth that there is.
We’re all human. And we all have egos.
So I’m not telling you to pretend you don’t have an ego or to act like you’re some enlightened being on the top of a mountain. (PS: why are they always on top of a mountain? Isn’t it, like, crazy cold up there? Can’t you be just as enlightened on the beach in Aruba?)
Instead… pay TF attention to your thoughts.
And when you noticed that constriction… that attachment to being right in the face of the obvious signs saying it’s not working for you…
Unclench.
Literally.
Drop your shoulders. Unlock your jaw. Remind yourself you don’t have to be right.
Be curious. Ask yourself why you're so attached to your opinion. And being right.
Could someone else be right too? Can more than one person win? #playteam
You’ll end up with so much more flow and ease in your life. You’ll be able to work toward your dreams better. And honestly, it usually happens faster too.
In terms of actionable, practical tips (I know, I just can’t quit them), I challenge you to get more intentional with your time.
What action steps do you need to do in order to move from where you are now… to that dream life you’re working toward?
It’s all about conscious, intentional action.
No matter what your dream looks like…
Your biz. Your home life. Your relationships.
Not only will it help you gain clarity on your dream life, it’ll help you create a series of intentional actions to get there.
I can’t wait to see what you come up with.
XO,
Hayley