Ever wonder why so many people set goals… and don’t achieve them?
I work with a lot of entrepreneurs and creative professionals who say things like...
I’m gonna double my sales this year.
I’m gonna lose those 20 pounds I picked up since COVID.
I’m gonna eat healthier… add more veggies and cut back on meat.
These are all beautiful goals. Prime examples of the kind of New Year's resolutions we alllll make. Totally worthy (and totally doable).
But not everyone takes action or follows through.
In fact, research shows that up to 80% of New Year's resolutions fail by mid-February.
I find it’s usually one of three things (or honestly, a combo):
- Broken belief systems.
- Lack of know-how.
The good news is… these three things are absolutely overcome-able. (If Marie Forleo can make up “figure-out-able” then I can make up “overcome-able” LOL).
And what I absolutely know is that once you start taking action, you’ll start to see results… and that builds momentum. Which is incredibly motivating.
The first step is always the hardest. So let’s dive into each of these causes and how to fix them.
3 Coaching Tips to Help You Start Taking Action Toward Your Goals
1. Share your goals to overcome fear.
Fear is inside all of us.
It’s an evolutionary instinct designed to keep us alive. But as we’ve evolved, we bring fear into all sorts of crap where it’s not useful.
“Yikes, a tiger is about to eat me,” and “I have a new opportunity in front of me and IDK what to do,” inspire the exact same fear response in the lizard part of our brains.
Even if you consciously know fear is silly and you can’t be hurt, your brain is designed for survival.
Want proof? Use a virtual reality headset. That shiz will mess you up for real.
In terms of your goals, a good way to release fear is to share it. I know that sounds counterintuitive but it works.
See, fear can’t survive in the light. Sometimes the simple act of sharing a fear (or a goal) makes it not so big anymore. It makes it something overcome-able.
And it’s a sneaky way to hold yourself accountable.
Because when you share your goals (and your fears), you have someone you trust to share your progress with. And dreams become a lot more achievable once you speak the words and put those goals out into the universe.
Here’s the important part: Choose your trusted people wisely.
You want cheerleaders on your side… not people who are gonna compete with you, be jealous, or otherwise hold you back. You want rah-rah people to invest your confidence in.
It’s really hard to be successful in a vacuum.
Whenever you get a big win… or you have an uncomfortable question or topic… and you literally make it so no one can support you?
You suffocate your flow. You minimize your achievements.
So yes… you don’t have to broadcast your shiz everywhere (especially if you’re more of a private person) but invest in your inner circle.
It really will help you stay accountable – and keep the momentum going when you have a small crew of supporters who have your back.
2. Own your shiz (AKA: Be honest about why you’re not taking action).
There is a reason you haven’t taken action yet.
So… what is it?
Now, before you answer this… lemme break this down real quick.
I don’t want to hear your excuses – or “reasons” as you may tell yourself.
I want you to go deeper than that.
There is usually some sort of limiting belief that’s holding you back from taking action.
Here’s an example.
You say you want to drop some excess pounds. But you don’t do anything about it and the weight linger.
Your “reasons” are probably things like:
- I’ve been stressed.
- It’s cold outside.
- I don’t like working out in a mask.
- I’m too busy.
- My kids’ schedules.
These aren’t real reasons. They’re excuses. You can totally shift things around to overcome these “reasons” – and you know it.
So it’s time to get realllll honest and explore your beliefs.
- Do you believe you’re not going to have the outcome you want (so why bother)?
- Do you believe this is how things have always been, so it’s just how they’re going to be?
- Will achieving your goal say something about you that you’re afraid to share with the world?
- Is someone ELSE telling you you need to lose weight… and you’re coming from a place of people pleasing?
- Is there a higher priority for you right now?
Don’t let excuses protect you from the change you SAY you want… but don’t do anything about.
Instead, spend some time doing introspective work to find out what the real root cause is.
You may find you don’t actually want that thing as much as you think. Or you haven’t suffered enough to actually show up and make a change.
Once you get honest and understand the beliefs behind your lack of action, then you can take conscious steps to overcome that obstacle.
Because once you take that first step, it all gets way easier.
3. Fix your broken relationship with time (+ manage your time better).
We all have the same amount of time.
So when people use TIME as their excuse for why they can’t achieve their dreams and goals… I get super fired up.
(BTW, poor Tyra LOL)
Most of us waste tons of time each day… or we’re unrealistic with our time which leads to overcommitting and under-delivering.
The good news here is… YOU are the designer of your days.
Sure, you have commitments… we all do.
But what if you could re-organize your time to be more effective?
What if you could literally carve out time each day to work toward your goals?
Whether that’s to end your day a bit earlier so you can try a new plant-based recipe for dinner…
Or better yet, save time by paying someone to make it for you (meal prep services and healthy meal delivery are actually way more affordable than you think!)
In the case of you wanting to get healthier and shed some excess weight…
What if you could shift around your schedule so you were able to create an extra hour for yourself to take that hot yoga class you’ve wanted to try?
Or let’s say your goal is to bring in more money. How could you restructure your time so you can work on projects to scale your biz… PLUS manage all your day-to-day work you have?
It’s all possible.
And you can do it without scheduling every second of your day.
It’s about strategy… with a good dose of efficiency.
If you want to learn how to manage YOUR time better… to get more shiz done in less time and with less effort…
Not only will you learn a highly-effectively calendaring process… you’ll revolutionize your relationship with time.
It won’t be your enemy anymore…
That thing that’s holding you back from your dreams…
That you never have enough of…
That stresses you out…
Instead, you’ll learn how to work WITH time.
To treat it as your sassy BFF…
And finally… FINALLY have a system that makes time management EASY.
The Reclaim Your Time Challenge is perfect if you’ve got big goals you wanna work on… but you can’t seem to find the time.
Whether those goals are personal or professional.
Over the course of 5 days, you’ll learn my signature time and task management technique… which can actually give you back an extra hour or more each day.
You’ll also come away with a new mindset about time… and stop seeing it as an enemy.
What you’ll learn inside the challenge can be put into practice on day 1… you’ll start applying the technique in your own life.
Right now, it’s just 10 bucks to join the 5-day challenge.
Imagine that… $2 bucks a day to learn a technique that can give you back an hour or more each day. An hour of your time is worth way more than $2, right?
I certainly think so.
The price of your pass DOES include replays so if you can’t show up live, you’ll still be able to catch the session later.
It’s a total no-brainer if you want to make a change… you have goals… and you're having trouble making progress on your goals by yourself.
See ya inside the challenge!