Triggers Are Your Blessings: Thank Them for Showing Up for You

Hey, my friends! I’m Hayley Hobson and I’m so glad you’re here! Welcome to the 10/10 Podcast where I help ambitious women like you, look + feel younger, so you can achieve a 10/10 lifestyle (and unlock financial freedom).

Tell me somethin’… do you ever get triggered? 

If you're not sure what it looks like to be triggered, first of all, goodonya for being a superhuman. LOL

But what ya could do is watch the TV show Suits – it’s having a moment right now.

Louis from Suits is legit a human-shaped trigger, LOL.

Getting triggered looks like this…

Someone says something…

Or makes a particular face…

Or reacts a certain way to you… 

Or maybe DOES something…

And you just go off.

Or spiral.

You react INSTANTLY – literally without a single conscious thought about it.

It’s just like BOOM – reaction.

And if you’re not in the moment – or even aware of it happening…

Your day can totally take a complete left turn…

And you’re stuck in a downward path of negative emotions. 

Maybe you’ve destroyed a relationship along the way…

Sound familiar?

Well, my friend… if you’re sitting there nodding your head…

You're not the only one.

It happens allllll the freaking time.

So here’s my hot take on this.

Triggers are actually a blessing! 

They shine a bright light on areas we need to work on. 

For someone who loves growth + development as much as me…

That’s a HUGE HELP. 

I’ve spent a ton of time the past several years uncovering my triggers… 

The true root causes…

And practicing how to notice them in the moment.

And THEN, choosing to shift my mindset and approach...

To overcome them.

And not let them be in charge of my life anymore.

It’s a real game changer that most people just don’t bother to focus on.

They say, “Meh, this is just how it is.”

When it’s actually something you CAN change!

Once you know how.

Addressing those head on is gonna make a massive positive impact in how you show up in your biz…

Your relationships… your fam…

And the results you see.

Right now I’m running a podcast listener exclusive – for you -- where you can get my eyes and ears on what’s triggering you…

And work through it together LIVE…

In my weekly Coaching Circle.

When you head over to (that dash is important, don’t forget to add the dash)...

Or come into any of my social channels and DM me the words COACHING CIRCLE.

And when you do I’m gifting you a month of sessions. AKA: From me, for free. Totally on the house.

‘Cause I’m that serious about helping you overcome your triggers….

And I 100% believe I can be a super useful (and fun LOL!) tool to help you become a better version of yourself.

And I know I can help you with this.

In a serious, REAL way.

Let me support you in getting to the bottom of why you're triggered.

I’ll support you in figuring out whatever or whoever's triggering you – and pinpoint who it represents in your life.

And why is it triggering?

What does it make you feel?

What story have you been telling yourself your whole life?

Most people who come to my Coaching Circle for the first time are completely surprised by the type of coaching I do.

It’s laser.

It’s specific.

You get to be you. 

And then I share my experience of you.

What’s coming up for me that’s holding you back. 

That you may not be able to see on your own. 

With complete honesty.

And 99% of the time people are like, “OMG, this is so helpful! I’ve been walking around for decades without knowing that this is how I show up!” 

“This is how other people see me. Experience me.”

And what I know is that once you get in there, you’re gonna see some results.

And once you’re in, you can totally stay if you want to.

Now, here’s a big PS.

And this may not be for everybody.

Actually, it’s DEFINITELY not for everybody.

What I’m about to describe is a more intensive kind of coaching experience. Because I know there are some people listening who are ready to make a major difference in their lives. 

Maybe that is you. 

And I’m serious about helping you transform and get to the next level.

So here’s another offer… I open up my home about once a month – either in San Diego or Boulder, Colorado – for more intensive 1:1 work. 

I call it a VIP Day.

I don't do this often because I'm traveling all over the place.

I mean, I barely get office time as it is – like I'm lucky if I have three days at my desk during the week with all that's going on in my very full life.

That's the life I've created but I *have* set aside one day a month where I am inviting somebody in.

And if you wanna be that person to come and sit down with me, we’ll go over everything that you want to go over. 

I will coach you all day until you transform – literally in front of your own eyes.

You get to become a different person – the person you wanna be.

And I'll also look over anything that you want to look over in terms of your life, your biz, your marketing… or just become a different version of yourself.

If you’re curious about that, head over to

You can find time on my calendar and we can chat about it.

So, a minute ago I said that triggers can be a blessing.

Let’s dig into that.

When someone is triggered… 

Whether that’s you or someone you know…

It means they're having a strong, uncomfortable emotional reaction to a stimulus that wouldn't ordinarily cause that response. 

And most of the time, it has nothing to do with what happened. Instead…

It has to do with an unresolved, underlying issue.

So think about this for a second…

When you get triggered, how do you feel?

For some people, it may show up as panic, overwhelm, crying, acting out…

Or red hot rage.

(AKA: Louis from Suits, LOL)

For others, they withdraw.

Or become defensive.

Everyone reacts differently.

And the thing to know is…

This response is a message from your subconscious telling you that you have an area to work on… 

There is something underneath your trigger. 

It’s like your body is waving a huge flag at you.

And what most of us do is point the finger away from ourselves.

“YOU triggered ME.”

When the truth is… that trigger is coming from YOU.

9 times out of 10, the person on the receiving end of your trigger response has no idea they’re involved in generating that snap reaction.

Most of the time they’re completely bewildered by it!

So, when you find yourself triggered… 

Instead of blaming the person in front of you who quote unquote “made you feel that way…”

‘Cause newsflash, they didn’t make you feel anything. 

YOU are in control of your emotions.

But when you find yourself triggered, I want you to ask yourself…

“What am I getting triggered about? Why am I reacting like this?”

Really take the time to think about it.

Process it.

Meditate on it.

Write it out. 

Talk to someone about it.

And then, say thank you. 

Embrace your trigger… 

Instead of pointing the finger, go to a place of inner self-discovery. 

And even though it’s uncomfortable AF, these breakdowns can lead to major breakthroughs

I’ve experienced it myself.

Maaaaaaaany times.

And what I can tell ya from firsthand experience is…

Once I’ve processed these triggers, I feel sooooo much better – and lighter…

And at peace.

Because I’ve been able to release a belief and emotion stuck in my body.

So it helps me feel centered again.

You may get triggered often – or maybe just once once in a while.

The trick is to become mindful and aware of these triggers as they appear.

Then stop.

Ask yourself what’s the REAL root cause of that trigger…

And then begin to unwind that.

Work through it.

Resolve it.

And I promise you it WILL get better…

Maybe even disappear entirely.

And I totally get that this can be super challenging to do on your own.

If not impossible, to be honest.

And that’s why I’m offering to help ya with it.

The best place to start is by taking me up on my 1-month free Coaching Circle offer.

Which, again, you can get the hookup for by going to

This looks like getting laser coached weekly on Zoom by me. 

Getting the kind of truth and transparency that leads to RESULTS in your life + biz! 

Legit, concrete CHANGE and transformation.

Not the kind of sugar coated consultation you may be getting from others.

‘Cause what I know for sure is…

I can help you. 

Because I can see what you can’t see.
AND I care about supporting you in making a change in your life. 

And learning how to overcome your triggers *will* change your life… 

And you’re gonna be ah-freaking-mazed at new ways you respond to old situations.

And I’m here to be in your corner if you wanna be done with triggers, too.

I can tell ya from personal experience, it’s soooo freeing.

And not only does it make YOU happier…

But it makes those around you happier. Too.

Alright, friends… that’s it for me today.

Jump in the coaching circle with me or DM me privately if you want to spend a day with me.

I’ll see ya online.